DorsetGirl

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
suzie-shooter
she-waves-at-cats

I think it needs to become common knowledge that "inability to read social cues" can show up as overcompensating.

You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed, so you become the perfect child who never tests rules.

You don't know if someone is irritated with you, so you'll be extra generous and self-effacing.

You don't know how much is expected of you at work so you'll kill yourself in a minimum-wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this.

"Hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't know when to stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so i can stop tracking everybody's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.

bread-tab

Sometimes (though not nearly as often) you get subtypes of this where overcompensating even grows into a special interest. I'm looking at you, autistic actors, psychologists, etiquette experts, interculturalists, anthropologists, sociologists, hospitality gurus, fiction writers, philosophers... All you bemused scholars of humanity.

"Ah, this doesn't apply to me... after years of intense study, I can reliably read most social cues!"

When you spend all day in a performance where you are so incredibly Normal and Socially Skilled and then collapse into a nonverbal puddle as soon as you get home, that's an autism.

...

Also. "Not picking up on social cues" is a frame of the situation which looks in from the outside, where "social cues" are a mundane, obvious facet of reality.

As an internal experience, it feels more like: "Most other human beings are weird and unpredictable, especially in groups. They seem to have shared sets of secret rules and nearly imperceptible ways of communicating which lead to erratic, disturbing behavior."

grison-in-space

In addition: if you notice that your ability to parse and respond to social cues suddenly goes to absolute shit when you are tired or distracted... you might be looking at hypervigilant social compensation. like a swan gliding through a pond full of sailboats. sure, you might actually be more maneuverable and faster than the sailboats in some circumstances, but boy howdy are those little feets paddling underneath the surface..

tlbodine

....oh.

suzie-shooter
rollhistory

Listen, if you interrupt me with a new task while I’m midway through another, you aren’t allowed to be mad when I switch to the new task immediately. You clearly thought the new task was important enough to interrupt me with it!

I am just a little pikmin! You’re the one with the whistle!!

rollhistory

‘You need to learn to prioritise’ no YOU do! You’re the one dishing out tasks!! All I need to do is take things back to the onion!

foone

Also, I have the ADHD! If you stop me while I'm doing X and ask me to do Y, I will immediately switch to doing Y because THAT IS THE ONLY WAY IT IS GETTING DONE. I do not have the option of finishing X and then getting around to Y, I will 100% forget and I know this about myself from years and years of experience of living in my brain.

You ask an ADHD person to do something, you're getting it RIGHT NOW or NEVER. Those are the only two times.

Welcome to time blindness, enjoy your visit, I live here.

The number of different lists and to-do systems I have on my computer and none of them are any use because how am I supposed to remember to
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vincentpriceofficial

the thing about historical fiction where the characters have extremely modern attitudes to everything and appear to have psychic access to the most up to date tumblr discourse in the year of the book’s publication is like. why are you even writing historical fiction if you aren’t interested in what people thought and felt and believed in the specific social context of that time and place

if you have contempt for people in the past don’t write about them! write a modern story set at a costume party or a historical reenactment or something lol

The Guide - DorsetGirl - Sharpe - All Media Types [Archive of Our Own]
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
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Warning: Major Character Death. AU for Sharpe’s Challenge. As in the show, Sharpe learns from Captain Mohan Singh that Patrick Harper died six months ago. The AU part is that when the attack comes a few minutes later Pat is unable to save him, and Sharpe is badly wounded. Companion piece to The Journey.

sharpe sharpefic sharpe/harper writing
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alexseanchai
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Total Cookie Protection works by creating a separate “cookie jar” for each website you visit. Instead of allowing trackers to link up your behavior on multiple sites, they just get to see behavior on individual sites. Any time a website, or third-party content embedded in a website, deposits a cookie in your browser, that cookie is confined to the cookie jar assigned to only that website. No other websites can reach into the cookie jars that don’t belong to them and find out what the other websites’ cookies know about you — giving you freedom from invasive ads and reducing the amount of information companies gather about you.

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anyway switch to Firefox

dancinbutterfly

Good fox 🦊

cerebrobullet
just-antishipper-things

"You can't ship that!"

lol what are you gonna do, climb inside my mind and shut off the imagination switch?

just-antishipper-things

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This kind of response always fascinates me, so while I've got you here, can I just ask: legal by what standards? Do you mean real world standards, where laws vary from country to country, and in the case of the US, state to state? Or do you mean the fictitious laws set in place in the fictional setting of the ship? What standard exactly should we use to tell people "you're not allowed to enjoy this fictional thing?"

I know you didn't mean any harm by your response, but I feel it's important to reiterate that nothing gives anyone the right to police what people do in a fictional setting, full stop. Because at the end of the day, it's fiction, it's a fantasy, none of it is real, and so real world rules and standards do not apply. So, as long as you are not actively causing harm in a real world setting (i.e. harassing real people over fictional ships) then you do you.

just-antishipper-things

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a very important addition

hazel2468

Something that also drives me NUTS with this "uwu if it's legal" shit is like...

Y'all only EVER. Say it about sexual stuff. "Oh wow well if it's LEGAL-!" bitch my ass is out here playing DnD. I roleplay a devil-them who KILLS PEOPLE FOR A LIVING and yet I don't see y'all rushing to tell me that those thoughts are illegal and bad and noooo you can't do THAT, murder is ILLEGAL.

It's because y'all are a bunch of puritan weirdos about sex and I reblogged a post that hits why right on the nose but dear FUCK y'all need to really unpack all of your weirdness about sex. Like. Right now. Because it's all conservative bullshit.

dorsetgirl1

“y'all are a bunch of puritan weirdos about sex“ - so glad to see someone else thinks this.